What About Divorce For Men?
What About Divorce For Men?
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Divorce for men doesn’t get the attention it deserves.  No offense to women – they should be protected and represented well, but the system is set up to favor women, not to be fair to everyone.  The domestic court system is NOT set up to operate in the best interests of the children and that’s where the shame lies.

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  1. I clearly understand your message and would like to help others with their challenges. Please take a moment to visit http://www.secondthoughtsondivorce.com for a brief summary on the business aspects of handling your divorce. Let me know if we might be able to work together, maybe as simple as a link between sites or maybe offering dramatically discounted books to your readers. You can also contact me by phone at (602) 647-4266.

    Charles Jackson
    Phx, AZ

  2. Charles

    Thanks for your comments. Your book seems quite well organized and thoughtful. We’d love to pursue discussions to see how we can collaborate together to help folks with divorce. I’ll give you a call today and we can discuss our options

    Mark Aylward


  3. CeCe

    Here is a little history of my current situation
    My bf married his wife because he got her pregnant he was not in love with her he wanted to do the right thing. They have been married for 17 years. He is a helicopter fighter pilot in the army. Over the last 5 years he was deployment 3 times for over a year. His last deployment was 5/11-5/12 during his absence, he had close calls with death and those incidents gave him the courage to step up and make a decision that he has not be happy over the last ten years but was hanging on because of his 2 daughters. He told his wife in the beginning of his last deployment that he wanted a divorce and told her to retain and attorney. Fast forward this May 2012, he came back state side and moved out of the family home, 2 months ago he gave her retainer money to retain an attorney (the wife wants to stay married until they hit 20 years because then she would receive free medical for the rest of her life through the government) she had no intention of filing because she wants free medical. He went 3 weeks ago to retain his attorney which filed a petition for divorce last week. The process has begun.

    I am divorced 3.5 years now with no children and it was amicable.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months I met him a month after he returned state side on-line and not a dating site. He lives in Texas and I am in Illinois and we have visited each other several times. Our relationship has grown and created a strong bond. Technically my boyfriend is still married, I have “never” been in this situation before. I love him and I don’t know how to navigate this with him.

    We had our first big fight last night and he has not returned any of my phone calls its been over 15 hours. He received a call from his soon to be ex and he said that he hated her and never hated anyone as much, I misread the sign to mean he is still emotionally connected her and may still love her and I stated as much, he became enraged and I conceded and told him I would speak to him later and hung up. I called him back several times over the next couple of hours and after my last attempt he called 1.5 hours later. I wanted to and attempted to apologize for saying anything and told him that he has every right to feel what he is feeling and to say what he wants to say regarding his soon to be ex. He was not hearing me and then gave me the silent treatment. I said I want him to want to talk and apparently he does not want to at this time and I would let him go and when he feels like talking to call me. That was 830pm last night. We general would talk for a couple of hours a night. Last night it was less than 5 minutes. I thought with a good night rest I would hear from him the morning like our normal schedule and no phone call, I called twice and then e-mailed – apologizing again and stated that this is new for me and I don’t know how to navigate my way and being 1200 miles apart with the silent treatment hurts me. That I will not call again and when he is ready to talk I will be here.

    The reason for my post is to ask for your advice on how to navigate this where it doesn’t blow up in my face. I love him and I want to keep him.

    • CeCe
      I hesitate to offer advice to you as I’m not a licensed counselor. I’m flattered that our message resonated with you and hope you will introduce/link/share our site to/with others you know who might benefit from our message.

      Regarding your situation, it sounds challenging and I wish you the best with it. I quite often find stepping back and waiting for things to clarify themselves is the best option. I think you hit the nail on the head.

      Love is the strongest, most powerful force there is.

      Best of luck
      Mark


  4. Roger Navai

    Hello, I was surprised by my wife after 23 years that she wants divorce. I knew thing were not right but I never thought it would come to this. I have tried everything possible to change her mind. I know romance was missing in our relationship. I have asked her to let me change things but she has refused so far. She wants out. We are selling the house, have agreed to split 50/50 most things, however, she is asking for alimony. I have talked to a divorce mediator, hopefully we can finish this the right way. I am going through a lot of anxiety and stress and have lost a lot of weight (maybe one benefit). Thank you for putting up this web site.


    • Steve

      Roger –

      Thank you for sharing a bit of your story. It’s important to stay connected to friends and family and handle that stress and anxiety in productive ways so it doesn’t pile up and crush you. I’m glad we could help. Please let us know if there are any other topics we can cover for you.


  5. Joe

    I think you have a great site here and enjoy the vids. I am a child of divorce and a divorced man myself. I am always looking for other men’s viewpoints on divorce and bouncing back as it was a long road. It continues to be a battle as I enter another serious relationship, deal with a blended family, and work with my ex to raise our son. I look forward to learning more from your site.

    thanks

    Joe


    • Steve

      Joe –

      Thanks for the positive feedback! Please feel free to chime in via the comments section on any of our videos or articles. I think as we build the site, having engaged users offer feedback and support to one another will make this a positive and helpful community.

      Best of luck!

      Steve